Watch out for defective habits in your teens

First we learn to identify the defective habits our teens have adapted which would lead to more problems most parents face later in their life.

*Defective teens like to blame others for all their problems. The parents, the teachers, the school, the government and all others except themselves. They never take responsibility for their own life. All their life they 'll be the victims. Their defective habits usually nurtured at very young age adopted from the parents whom also like to blame others most of the time in their daily life. Every time they make a mistake and start to blame others, parents nevertheless would side them and confirm towards the defective habit, which later on have developed into a permanent defective behaviour. I used to face parents whom being invited to school to talk about their problems teens; "My son said, the teacher is unfair. The teacher being racist, never punished their own race for the similar mistake made. " In fact many Chinese students use this excuse as a weapon to escape from their parents' punishment for the mistakes they make in school. To my surprise, most parents like to believe it, for most Malaysian Chinese still strongly hold on to this idealogy.

*The defective teens never have plans for their future. Since they never take responsibility, thus they also never worry about tomorrow. All things seem to be well taken care off by their parents. They live for the moment, enjoying themselves with their peers, sleeping in the class while teachers are teaching but staying awake all night playing computer games or chating endlessly on their phones. They never worry about the consequences for breaking school rules and damn the rules for they'll walk around with the latest fashion in town, feeling like a star. They rather spend their precious time in the smelly toilet than to sit in the classroom learning from the teachers. All they have to do is to put the first thing last and the last thing first. All the goodness such as hard working, honesty, faithfulness, loyalty from their ancesters are stupid to them. Good advices are funny, for they will be giggling over serious things talked by the teachers.

So parents, if you see these characteristic in your teens, you have to watch out. Take the first step ahead and build up the sense of responsibility in your teens. Never believe in their blames. See what really goes wrong and treat their defective thinking. You yourself must prove to be a functional person, always not blaming others in front of your children. Children learn by example. Make them do all the things they suppose to do for themselves, include washing their own plates, shoes , keeping their room clean and also helping with the house works. Both parent, father and mother must cooperate in the up bringing of their children. As what we see today in most family the father will leave all the responsibilities to the mother, and the mother becomes the dominant figure in the house who answers to everything the child needs. This phenomena is unhealthy in terms of character building for a child as he needs both parent as role model to be able to adopt their example as a responsible person. Parent should work along with the school regulations and always watch out for their children behaviour in school. Check their attire and hair style, for all schools in Malaysia never allow students to be fashionable. Make sure the children discipline themselves at home and never let them be loose-tie, doing anything they like except studying. Cultivate good habits from young age, make them responsible for their own deeds. Have close check over their daily achievement in school, make sure they can follow all the lessons. Never entertain excuses. Encourage them and always tell them that education is very important. Parents who always talk negative things about education would further ruined their children future. Make your children aim high, and if he drops he won't drop so low.