Runaway girl

It was 12.30 midnight when I got a phone call from her father," My girl has not returned home till now, didn't she go to school this morning?" I was caught in the middle of my sweet dream, couldn't make up who was she was.Later I remembered her, she came to see me frequent, sort of finding some one to talk to. I recalled the day she was outside my room early in the morning and I was busy with referred cases. She stood there looking a bit sad ,I told her to come after recess but she didn't showed up."Oh ya? Have you called up all her friends?" Later I was told that they found her at her friend's house. She had a lot of complaints lately, the whole world seem to offend her. Her parent, divorced few years back was the greatest impact to her life today, especially after the father remarried. "Nobody loves me, my mother promised to celebrate my birthday but she didn't showed up. My father is too busy to care about my feeling. Nobody, nobody trusts me, they despise me, I'm always at fault, even if I do well, nobody ever appreciate."
I had many cases of teens who came from broken homes, they were mostly problematic. Unless either father or mother who could really manage and handle the situation well, otherwise the children might suffered the psychology impact of loosing one of the parent.
The common symptom is the premature coupling relationship. Though this problem also occurred in normal famillies but more on the broken families. Why the teens need to couple up at so early age? Many parents had seen me for this particular problem. Apart from the normal natural instinct process, some teens go to the extreme of having sexual relationship or running away from home. They were not afraid or shy to let others know about it. Most of them claimed that they were lonely. Most of the time the parents were not at home, they were busy. "I have boy friend because I have no one to talk to. At least I don't have to talk to the wall." "My boy friend loves me, I feel nice about this." The truth is the parents are real busy nowadays. Apart from their careers, they have all other activities to attend. Last night I was watching a group of women dancing at the playground next to my house. You can see the dancing sessions everywhere, especially night time. Morning, they would probably doing exercises at the seaside. Most mothers are wiser nowadays to take care of their health. The fathers have to much work to do in order to meet the inflation. The school used to have activities for the parent on Sundays but most of them could not come because they were "busy". When the parents are out, I wander what the teens do at home. Do they revise their lessons? Do they help you in the house work? Or do they really stay at home? In order to make them happy most parents bribe their teens with hand phones, which has became the root of all evils later on. So how? Most parents demand one word answer from the counselor. "My teen is problematic. I am sending him to you." When I insisted that its the parents I should see, "I am busy, not me have problems, its my child." When I talk to the parents, I can hardly finish our conversations because they would be clinging to their handset every alternate minutes.
I had a case whereby the parent were not at home for days, the daughter brought back her boy friend to sleep. Most common place to hunt for boys is at the cyber cafe. A girl, 16 had delivered a baby to the boy 17, whom she met at the cyber cafe and they had an affair the first day itself, not knowing what his real name was. More serious case is about a girl 15 from a broken home, left alone most of the time, doing part time business XXX in order to support her handset and luxurious things. Most parents groaned that teenagers nowadays have changed, not like our time. Yes, they need to change to meet the changing world, but our duty as a parent not change. It depends on the priority you put between your children and other things. You harvest what you sow.