How paradigm of self could influence your life

What is paradigm? Paradigm is how you look at yourself, they are all perceptions. Negative paradigm would create limitations. One who strongly believe that he is a dumb, then he is indeed.For instant you are convinced that you couldn't make it to colleges, the belief would hold you back; you wouldn't work hard enough, sitting in the class listening to teachers is a waste of time, always excuses, and at last your prediction come true, you couldn't make it.
Quite sometime ago I was seeing a boy who wanted to stop school at Form 2 because he believed that he wouldn't pass PMR. His father was with him, trying to convince me about his son,
" Madam Teo, its no use, my son wouldn't make it. He was no good since primary school. I think he better go to work, don't waste time here." Well, its pretty clear that his paradigm had pulled him back.
Probably the parent too has negative paradigm. He was being told frequently that he wasn't good enough in school. Some parents may not know that their negative paradigms have intruded their children lives. In our daily conversation with the family members we might carelessly talk in negative tones. Some parents even use reverse psychology to motivate their children which I strongly oppose to that. You might think by saying 'you are not good enough compare to your sister or brother' would inspire your child to strive harder but in actual fact, they won't. The chances are that they would form a negative paradigm of self. Positive paradigm come through encouragements not condemnations.
Positive paradigm can bring out the best in oneself. If you think you can, you can. People work hard to achieve their dreams. Its determination and inspiration to think good about oneself . A successful person never has negative paradigm on self. Parents must plant into their children the positive paradigms. You know how to do it.