Bipolar Disorder

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Bipolar disorder is a common illness. Sufferers were once referred to as manic-depressive but the condition is now popularly known as Bipolar Disorder. What does it involve? It actually involves two different states if mind:
Mania: violent passion or desire; extreme excitement And,
Depression: a feeling of melancholy, hopelessness and dejection.

The symptoms can vary from moderate to extreme mania on one end of the scale and different levels of sadness and disappointment on the other. Usually there is a period of normal feelings in between the two. The change in mood from high to low can happen quite quickly and in some cases there may seem to be a mix of high and low together. There is no standard which can accurately predict what kind of mood will be manifest, how high or low the fluctuations will be or even how long they might last.

A manic depressive person with this bipolar disorder might seem on top of the world one day, taking on debts and responsibilities, feeling invincible and capable of anything. They may go out one day and finance a car that they can’t afford or volunteer for a task that is really beyond their capabilities to perform. The next day the world appears to crash in around them and they are incapable of coping with the simplest daily chores.

What can be expected from a sufferer during a period of mania? During mania the person will feel super energized. The excitement will be manifested in restlessness and quick thinking and speaking. They might seem edgy, irritable and distracted, have trouble sleeping, take risks and overspend. They will seem to be in a state of euphoria (exaggerated sense of well being). Sex drive is increased.

In a depression the person might seem continually sad or anxious. They may not be allowing any feelings and be left with an emptiness, which lasts for a period of hours or days. Hopeless, pessimistic and guilty with feelings of worthlessness and helplessness, they may withdraw, seem tired and listless. They may lose appetite and weight and also lose interest in things that normally excite them.
Alcohol and drug abuse may develop as a result of the seeming loss of emotional control. Men and women are equally at risk and the age at onset is usually between 15and 25.
There is no known cause of bipolar disorder. There may be a risk due to heredity but this has not been proven. It seems to run in families but the evidence is only anecdotal at present. If there is an awareness of the risks, then early diagnosis and treatment can reduce the symptoms. This illness strikes between one and two percent of the population where it is diagnosed. Diagnosis is difficult and bipolar disorder is often misdiagnosed as depression.

Some extreme episodes may require a hospital stay to help control the symptoms. A variety of antidepressants and other drugs are sometimes prescribed. Lithium is often given as a preventative drug but it has side effects that may make it undesirable

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堕胎婴灵大复仇 2009/09/25 3:46:55 PM
报道：胡惟翔、杨艾蒂 摄影：林逸军、
部分照片法师提供 转载自新生活报
Edited from nanyang siangpao


曾经为130万个灵婴做过超度法会的海涛法师神色凝重说，“在农历七月这段时期，婴灵会特别期待有人为他超度，而且还要帮婴灵取名字，让他感觉得到重视，再以一颗真诚和忏悔的心来超度他。”

虽然，堕胎者已超度婴灵，但，并不表示会永远摆脱他，只因你一堕胎后，就开始了这场无法终止的因果循环，它会无限期地一至延续下去。

他惊人奉劝：“如果你们得知周围的家人或朋友堕胎，一定要阻止堕胎的女性，不然，会和堕胎者一样，遭婴灵报仇！”

在这个阴森的鬼节来临时，《新生活报》成功独家专访台湾生命基金会董事长海涛法师玄谈堕胎的婴灵，向读者揭开灵婴灵异面纱……

手术室里，传来一把急促的声音，“流血不止了……快把钳子拿来……胚胎被夹出了……”护士接着把从下体所夹碎的胚胎放在盆里。

不要觉得惊讶，以上所进行的正是世上最残忍的堕胎手术!

堕胎是指胎儿被某人畜意致死、强夺生存的权力或人工流产的行为，无论是畜意与否，结束一条无辜的小生命，都是残酷的行为。

海涛法师说，“因生未生胎儿”，指的是婴灵，也就是还未出生就被堕掉的胎儿，基本上，堕胎后，灵体还会存在，而且带着怨恨，逗留在人间复仇。

堕胎是犯了根本戒，那就是杀戒，不仅损害自己，最悲惨的是断丧了一个婴灵投胎做人的机会，因为不知道还要等多久才能有做人的机会。

海涛法师一针见血剖析，婴灵是停留在阴阳界的一种灵体，他们既不属于鬼魂，也不是人类，必需停留在这阶段，直到婴灵原本在世的阳寿缘尽后，方能正式列为鬼魂，至此，才可以再世轮回。

法师说，婴灵有着比鬼魂更大的怨力，本身的怨气也会因日渐成长而不断增加，他们赖以生存的是亲生母亲的元气，根据说法，一般女性在一生中只能接受三个婴灵的附身，一但超越三个婴灵，那妇女的身体一定气虚，精神有所错乱，这是因为婴灵造成她元神虚弱的关系。

海涛法师针对这点做出解释：“婴灵会随着日子渐渐成长，所以他所需要的元气会越来越多，这也就是造成妇女元神虚弱，精神恍忽的原因。”

被堕掉的婴灵是有意识的，所以会记仇，如果这个灵无法投胎，便会随着时间长大，意识也会变强，然后进行报仇，搞到家庭不和。

其实，当男女交合时，卵子受精后就已经形成一种灵，至于灵会投胎的地方，也跟因果循环脱离不了关系，这可分为两种，报恩或报仇，如果是报恩的胎儿，把他堕了，那会失去福气，相反地，把来报仇的胎儿堕掉，就化解不了过去的恩怨，而且还和婴灵结了新仇。

对西方国家来说，婴儿在出世时才服赋予生命，让人误以为胚胎是没有生命的，这和佛教恰好相反。

由于社会道德观念日渐开放，时下的青少年，年纪轻轻便偷尝禁果，然后意外怀孕，至于成年人，更追求二人世界，所以，堕胎已被看成避孕失败的为一解决方法。

有到女子监狱帮忙超度的海涛法师提到，女犯人堕胎的巴仙率很高，一些人甚至有过三次以上的堕胎纪录，可见现今的人如何草率地看待‘堕胎’。

堕胎只是解决一时的问题，但却会带来终生遗憾与悔恨，所以奉劝女性朋友，千万别轻易做出这决定，扼杀自己的亲生骨肉。

所谓“解铃还须解铃人”，想堕胎的女性，应寻求其他解决的方法，别钻牛角尖，免得犯上杀戒，毁了自己的一生。

复仇的婴灵会附在父母或亲属身上的某个部位，然后，那个部位便会持续疼痛或发生令人意想不到的意外，十分的不可思议！

堕胎者万万没想到，婴灵是存在的，而且还会附在身上，海涛法师说：“曾经有位妇女堕胎后，便不断发生车祸，最让人感到诡异的是每一次车祸，都伤同样的脚，因为婴灵就附在她脚上。”

也有位老太太，年轻时，堕过胎儿，但却没有为他超度，然后，被附在腰上的婴灵，造成腰骨折断。

黄太太，因为身体不适的原因，而堕掉胎儿，过后，又被查出是错误诊断，那次之后，便无法再怀孕了，这对喜欢小孩的她，无疑是很大的打击。

就算是看遍了许多医生，也无补与事，直到她家人到庙里问神，才得知那被堕掉的婴儿原本是来报恩的，但因为被堕掉，便和她从此结怨，不再让她怀孕了。

最近，台湾在八月八日所发生的水灾，也有一家人遭到婴灵复仇的事件，海涛法师说：“那一家人是住在灾区，夫妇幸运被救获，但却失去了宝贝的孩子，经过问神后，得知是之前所堕掉的胎儿回来报仇，把小孩带走。”

陈小姐堕胎后，身体变得虚弱、忧郁和焦虑易怒，夜里更是噩梦连连，有时半夜醒来更听到有可怕的声音在吓唬她“你快死了，你快死了...”

工作上又不顺心，上司的有意刁难和同事之间的相处也出现问题，还经常为一些芝麻绿豆的小事和丈夫争吵，关系渐渐的疏远了，身体健康也在这时亮起了红灯，面对接二连三所发生的问题，让她差点蒙上自杀的念头，这全和她堕胎有关。

以上所有事件解开了大家对婴灵存在的迷思！

有些女性自然流产，表面上，胎儿的生命是死了，但是他不会怀恨，因为这是无心之过，他会形成婴灵，呆在父母的身边，等待超度，若胎儿是蓄意流产，婴灵便会心里充满仇恨，然后进行报仇，被婴灵缠上的人，轻则生病、重则死亡。

海涛法师说：“每个婴灵都会报仇，而且是视仇恨的程度来报复，所以堕胎后的妇女一定要超度婴灵，而且是必需怀着真诚、忏悔的心来超度他们，不然无法化解这股怨气。”

超度只是个仪式，最重要是视当事人有没有带着一颗真诚的心来忏悔，因为居住在胎儿里的灵魂都在等待投胎，但还未出世，却被杀害，导致无法投胎，进而复仇来雪恨，他说：“对于已经堕胎的妇女，就要用佛教的慈悲方法来超度婴灵，至于还未堕胎的便要防止堕胎，三思而后行，千万别杀害无辜的生命。”

海涛法师也大胆声称，文殊菩萨曾经堕过胎，因而下地狱，但他有一颗真诚忏悔的心，最后，依然可以成佛。

在访问中，记者更揭发了一连串的惊悚灵异事件。

海涛法师透露：“其实被堕掉的婴灵会缠父母亲，若婴灵是男的就缠住母亲，女的则缠父亲，这和异性相吸的道理一样。”

他继续说，如果某人怀孕了但想堕胎，身边的友人若帮忙该名妇女策划堕胎，这些策划者都会被婴灵杀死。

每次在法会进行超度时也会出现灵异事件，“我们在超度婴灵时，都会准备盛有牛奶的奶瓶，法会进行时，在场的人士都会看到那些牛奶慢慢地减少，这证明婴灵出没在法会现场。”

所以堕胎后，除了到佛庙里，自己本身也可以超度婴灵，如念经、吃素，尤其是在农历七月鬼节。

由于现代医学发达，使得堕胎几乎在法律及社会道德尺度上都趋于合法，许多妇女甚至把堕胎看作一件小事，在不知不觉中，造下罪无可赦的重业。

根据“联合国生殖权和生殖健康”调查报告指出，全球每年堕胎案例高达4900万宗，其中逾2000万宗是不安全堕胎，造成因堕胎而死亡的女性至少8万人。

大马堕胎指数渐增

而在大马，根据非正式估计，每个月至少有90人非法堕胎，平均每月60至90宗，每年更达到730宗至1095宗，情况令人担忧。

无论如何，堕胎在我国是属于非法的行为，医院必需检查孕妇的身体状况是否适合怀胎儿，方可进行堕胎手术，不然，将被视为非法，政府也于1985年开始规定，非法进行堕胎者将受到法律制裁。

Life Without Maid

Most of the working couples in Malaysia employ Indonesian maids. The maids handle most of the housework thus after certain period of time we have the tendency to DEPEND on the maids . Can't imagine how life without maid is going to be. I had a maid Warti (1st maid)who worked 6 years with me and all these years she became part of our family; I trusted her to manage my home and looking after kids. She not only doing housework, she also help me to manage my daily appointments and my orchard farm. I was so much dependence on her that I feared the day comes she is going to leave us. Indeed, the day has come earlier than I expected. Her mother in Indonesia pass away and she was called to go back home immediately. I had no choice but to let her go.
My 1st week without maid was a terrible one coz i haven't adjust myself to the situation. I had to send my baby away to my father's house coz he got maid.My house was messy,in fact horrible!, My clothing unable to manage thus I had to choose a few pieces that need not do the ironing. Meals not cooked, came back from work, hungry! Later I had to overcome this dilemma, I had to accept the truth that I had to go on, without maid, at least for sometimes.(Indonesian frozen their maids )meantime I had to settle down and started my new schedule of life. I used my weekend to get started, bit by bit from the kitchen to the rooms. from drawers to drawers(cos I don't know where all my things kept). My son Yen and I started cooking, trying new menu. I got to rearrange things according to my system (maid simply chuck here and there make me cannot find things). Until my whole house was kept upright, I started to enjoy my privacy at home, without having someone pocking nose into my life. Now I really feel that is alright without maid, I have to work harder no doubt but still enjoy the privacy. My enjoyment living without maid was not long. 5 weeks later she called me from Indonesia, (her permit not dead yet) that she wants to come back here. Alamak! Again my son said, Can't we just say NO? Now I am down again in the dilemma to accept her back. The thought that sometimes she pocking her nose into my business, sleeping on my best pillow (I realised the pillow I bought for RM200.00 lost), using my phone to call her boyfriend, showing sour face when her periods comes. Snooping around when my quests comes, bullied my child when I am not home... for all these, I have to pay her RM 600 a month. In fact now I realised that I can do housework better than a maid.
Reluctantly, I purchased a ticket for her to come back, next week.

The petals of Lives

There are moments in life when someone is missed so much that makes us long for them everyday.

Dream about what pleases you
Go where you want to go
Be who you want to be
You only have one life
To do what makes you happy

Find on the wonderful quest of life
Enough happiness to spread it around
Enough road blocks to make it stronger
Enough sorrows to keep a good soul
Enough wishes to be happy from within.

The happiest person don't necessary have everything, they simply utilizes all potential in what life has to offer.Because only people who care, can appreciate the importance of the things that leaves traces of life.

Forget the past, leave behind the mistakes and sorrows. Love is born with a smile and grow with a kiss.

Slaughter the Dead Goat

Lately our members are busy trying to find solutions to encounter the Rakyat's confidence towards our political party (MCA) after the 308 disaster.Meetings, seminars, talks, etc had been held for the members; of course never miss the lunches, dinners followed when we had visitors from the top people. In fact everybody is trying his very best to think of the possible ways, Kuantan planned to go down to the rakyat to solve their problems and to go ahead of the opposition parties in problems solving. In fact everybody is in the confusion state whereby at last we are still back in our old tricks. We still fail to understand a very simple equation: Why the Rakyat is ANGRY.There are two things we did, all the time:

1. SHUT OUR MIND TO WHAT ACTUALLY PEOPLE WANT FROM US.We only planned, IN PANIC, what we want to do for them.The repairs(which Not suppose to happen if not cause by the poor quality of the products, esp the roads and services) ,The explanations,(which shows that we have to tell more lies just to side the authorities,coz we take for granted that the Rakyat are stupids; which is our weaknesses known for ages),The activities, ( cos only attended by our own members more than the Rakyat cos just to put in the papers) And all the truth about us is : our mind is not open to accept the truth, the plain truth! The Rakyat only want: JUSTICE FOR ALL and NO CORRUPTIONS.
JUSTICE FOR ALL
MCA is the ruling party in the Barison National, we are SUPPOSE to be the RULE MAKER.We are not SUPPOSE to take the role of the opposition, TO COMPLAIN and QUESTION , coz we got to stand strong with dignity on the rules we made( to show that we think before the rules being passed) to the Rakyat.
NO CORRUPTIONS
Corruption in Malaysia is a known open secret to the world. Most Rakyat hate corruptions except the corrupter themselves. Coz, corruption make path easier for some people but as a tax payer, the idea of our hard earned money go into some one's pocket make us VERY VERY ANGRY! The worst thing of all is that some authority BLESS those CORRUPTER !This POINT is the plain FACTS that MCA just cannot EXPLAIN to the Rakyat and also can do nothing about it.

COME ON BROTHERS !The Rakyat wants us to do BIG thing, and the small small thing leave it to the social workers, we employed them.

2.THE BATTLE WITHIN THE PARTY
This had happened in all ages. WHY OUR OPPOSITION ARE SO STRONG NOW? Because THEY are NOT our TARGET, They are not our ENEMY!. Our target and enemy are our brothers and sisters within our own party who wears the same uniforms as us.We were so involved in fighting , suing ,splitting like virus. We wasted a lot of time and energy on the battle, the issue almost similar though not same.The Reason is only ONE: FOR THE POWER.We had long forgotten how our ancestors SACRIFICED for the better of our future, if we ever USED their names at all, was during the campaign, so that the young people know the history. We are not being realistic, do we? We never FEEL the way our ancestors felt about the Party. We can't even LOVED our fellow brothers and how can we demand our followers to love us ? This PROPERTY had passed on to us and we are now destroying it. We destroy our UNITY, we destroy our REPUTATION,we destroy the TRUST of the Rakyat and last we are destroying ourselves, sooner or later.

COME ON BROTHERS! PEOPLE OUTSIDE ARE LAUGHING AT US!


We take 50 over years to MAKE the OPPOSITION strong.We give them all the chances to catch hold of our weaknesses.Its not because they are good, but because we are NO GOOD and the Rakyat have NO CHOICE.Now that we suddenly realise TIME is running out.Now we have to think, think, how to turn the table around. If we still hold on to the old tricks, I'm sorry.........There are few things if we keep on doing, we 'll become WORST.

1.Try to cover the elephant corpse with our fingers.The Rakyat will see that we are stupid.
2.Belittle others just for the sake of belittling, The Rakyat will see that we are childish.
3.Use authority to suppress somebody, The Rakyat will see that we are brutal.
4.Jeer at people even if he does good thing. The Rakyaat will see that we are disgusting.
5.Telling lies thinking that others are stupid. The Rakyat will see that we are foolish.
All the above items I mentioned are what we try to practise today. The idea must have came from someone very in matured at the top there.Some one told :WE MUST USED BACK THE TRICKS the opposition used to defeat us , But we forgotten that they plotted, planned, korek the facts , consulted the professionals, used psychology, used high technology, used tremendous speakers to manipulate and convinced the RAKYAT.They just speak in line with the Rakyat,sneak in between, pretend to be one of them, roar the same tune and just one word I can say : THEIR OPPORTUNITY HAS COME.(we made it possible by our ignorant).

THE OPPOSITION(308)
ARE THEY REALLY MUCH BETTER THAN US? NO, they are not.They are just as human as we are. Give them a year ( may be less) they will be more corrupted than some of us did. (see the example of Perak 3 stooges), Some of them are of low quality lay man origin,most of them are the frustrated runaway fellows or expelled from our team.Sooner or later they are going to mess up things.They will take less than 10 years to collapse.The Rakyat didn't gave them a damn shit,just simply through the votes to them, not because they are good but just TO PUNISH US! PUNISH mean you still have the opportunity, but meantime THEY also not dreaming or stupid, they know who they are. Now they are busy recruiting the GOOD fellows, throwing out the bad one (while we busy BUYING over their unwanted rotten people with millions of RM)Using this oppurnity as a base to be strong, excellent and trust worthy government.Now they are busy accumulating all their modal TO BEAT US FLAT in the next election.Just see, WHAT WE ARE BUSY AT NOW?

THE RAKYAT
The Rakyat are very sensitive people, easily manipulated group whom we very much unconcerned while we were still UP THERE.We put our deaf ears to their whispers until today we heard their roars.But the Rakyat also have weaknesses, "THEY FEAR CHANGES" Changes might not be for the better. Take Singapore eg, The Lim Kuan Yew Dynasty never tumble down(yet).WHY? Just one word: CLEAN

If we can CLEAN ourselves from : CORRUPTION, INJUSTICE, POWER STRUGGLE
with the limited time we have, I'm sure THE RAKYAT will take us back quickly for the very simple reasons:
1. We still have many good Wakils who genuinely work for the Rakyat.
2. We already expertise in GOVERNMENTING (coz 50 over years experience)

JUST LEARN FROM SINGAPORE!

Don't Take away His Burden

A father came to me, worried about his son SPM which is approaching soon. "The examination is near but my son is not at all worried. He sleeps for hours in the afternoon back from school." So the father fixed a wake up time and that is 3 o'clock. When the son is deep asleep, the father will woke him up; force him to read his books. But he is so sleepy that very soon he goes to sleep again.This has been going on for months and the relationship becoming from bad to worse. But still the father holding to his principle, nevertheless there is no improvement.
The problem of most 'educated' parent is that they seem take away their children's worries, put all the burden on their shoulders and leave nothing at all for the children to worry about. This is the opposite in term of 'poor' parents whereby they never bother at all about their children, 'cannot study just come out and work.'
"Who worry the most over the coming SPM?"I asked the boy.
"My father."he said.
"I have to worry because he doesn't seem to care."claimed the father.

The modern parents have plans for every steps their children taken. In fact they are caring too much that the children couldn't feel that their lives belong to themselves. Most children nowadays are not trained with sense of responsibility. A very small example the parent used to practise, "If you do well in the coming exam, I will give you......" The children might feel as though they 're doing a favour for their parents in scoring the papers. Sometimes they are tired of doing 'good things' just to please the parents. They have been told what their future suppose to be.So why worry? They have nothing to struggle for cause the 'thinking 'part already done by the parents.
"So what's your plan?"I asked the boy.
"Don't know, father said he is going to send me to private colleges if I doesn't do well."
"So what do you really like to do in future?I interrogated again.
"Don't know, father says I 'll be an engineer." Again father said..... The boy lazy to think for himself. I advised the father to try this alternative: leave the worries back to him, tell him that you doesn't bother about what he will be. Give him a week, just let yourself FREE. Soon the boy will sense that he is alone now to think about himself, and he might started to worry why nobody care anymore.3 days later I called the father to see how. "He sleeps again till 4 o'clock, I couldn't stand it and pull him up again. He rebelled and we had a big fight. I have nothing to say to the WORRYING father. Its not easy to turn the table around.

Marital Problems That Often Lead to Divorce

Refrence article from google

Marital problems don’t always lead to divorce. At times they may cause you to feel like you want to run screaming toward the courthouse but, that doesn’t have to be the situation. I know you’ve heard this before but, I’m going to say it again anyway…marriage is work, a lot of work. The stress and strain of every day life can distract us at times and cause us to lose focus on the work that needs to be done in the marriage. That same stress can invade a marriage, exacerbate, and magnify any marital problems and issues in the marriage.
Most marital problems are typical. In other words if you are married, you will, at some point be faced with pretty much the same issues that most married people face. There is no true way to gauge whether the problems in your marriage are insurmountable. Your commitment to the marriage and your spouse determines how much you are willing to put up with and how hard you are willing to work on the marriage. If you are thinking about divorce or feeling like taking a jog down to the courthouse, ask yourself some of the follow questions.

· Are you to the point that your spouse just can’t do anything right, does everything they do get under your skin?
· Does everything lead to an argument?
· Are you tired of the fighting, so tired you can’t muster of the energy to even engage anymore?
· Has the love you felt been replaced by resentment?
· Would you rather be anywhere than with your spouse?
· When you and your spouse are together do you find you have nothing to talk about or that you have little interest in talking to him/her?
· Does the idea of sex with your spouse cause you to shudder?
· Are you having an affair or thinking about having an affair?
· You find yourself doing the opposite of what your spouse needs from you just to spite him/her?
· Are thoughts of divorce running through your mind on a regular basis?
Don’t worry, just because you answered yes to most of the questions doesn’t necessarily mean you are headed for divorce. It does mean, however that your marriage is in trouble and that it is time to evaluate your feelings as far as your commitment to the marriage. Steps need to be taken to either fix the problems in the marriage or to get the ball rolling and the divorce process started. Staying stuck in an unhappy marriage should not be an option for you or your spouse. Get to work finding a solution for the problems or you will end up in divorce court.