Life is just like this

我们 一出世，就被教 导做个好孩子
拼命的 读书，好了读完书了。大学也毕业 了。拼命的做工，赚 多多的钱。。。拼命的存钱 ，买房子，车子，保 险
不小心找到了老婆，好了，结 婚了，钱也用完了
再 拼命的做工，好了30岁了，开 始瓶颈。。。再拼 命的读PARTTIME，好了，学位高了。。。
拼 命的抚 育孩子，好了，孩子 读书了。。。
拼命的灌 输孩子要努力读书 。。。。
自己拼 命的做工。。。学位高了，压 力也高了。。。
回到家，妻子照顾孩子，不得空理 你。。孩子忙着读书 ，不得空理你。。
月头，样样都是 钱。
孩子和你 拿钱 。妻子和你拿钱房子和你拿钱保险和你拿钱车子和你拿钱
过年了，更加多钱
除了以上，
母亲和你拿钱红包和你拿钱旅行和你拿钱NIKE，LEVI，PRADA ，GUCCI，REEBOK ，PADINI。。。和你拿钱海外天也可能和你拿钱
40 岁，男人危机。。。拼命的工作，保住职位。。。成了大家眼中的势利同事。。。开始害怕失去工作，开始留意年 轻同事。。。想读书，钱，没有了，想换工，薪金高，岁数大，难讨新工想尽办法，还是不能爬上经理职位，还被一个年轻人上了位。。
孩子开始读中学了，和你拿更多的钱。父亲节，拿你给的钱，买了你没有用的东西。。。。房子! 还是和你要钱车子旧了，开始不听话了。。。还是要给钱! 妻子也是一样和你拿钱，旦绝对没有收条给你看。夫妻要信任
好不容易熬过50 了，要退休了，无风无浪。。。虽 然压力大，新上司意见多多，不要紧。我顶！
就要拿公积金咯！但是孩子要出国读书-- <>
好了，公 积 精拿完出来了，一大半给了孩子，剩下的给了妻子
还是回到零。。。退休了，不用做？？？不能几十年没有呆在家，忽然和妻子相处。。。妻子看不顺眼丈夫无所事事，命令丈夫开始学做家事，！
扫地，抹地，剪草，洗车，样样都要做。。。
好了，房子供完了。。。车子也没有什么架了。。。
开始 觉得人生很无奈，自己从一个提款机，最后变成了一个佣人。
孩子出国回来了，拍了一些照片。。。开始找工了。。。
毕业=失业 ， 工难找! ，最后找到一份只可以养活自己的工作。还是要住在家里。。。吃，交通。去的薪金的一大半。。所以只是意思意思的给RM100给父母做伙食费。。
3年过 去了，孩子好不容易累计的工作经验，薪金高了。。。但是却开始要买辆汽车代步。。。母亲帮助 +自己储蓄，给了头期。。。有了汽车，费用也多了。。还是意思意思给 RM200作伙食费
好不容易的工作开始稳定了，但是却认识了一个女朋友。。。开始了人生计划。。。要 买房子了。。。
由于车子+ 女朋友费用太大，还是不能给伙食费太多，而且女朋友说 3? ?计划，全部钱要储蓄。。。
2 年后，终于买了房子，买了房子，开始要结婚了。。。
我终于有用途了，被叫去提亲。。什么都不可以多说，全部老婆讲。自己讲些客套话就行了。。。
摆酒，婚礼，旅行。。。用了一大笔+ 母亲储蓄+ 我剩下的公积精
我还是回归零，。。。继续的剪草，扫地，做家务。。。
结婚了后，孩子很少会来了，忙着自己的家庭。。。偶尔假日才回来看看父母。。。每个月意思意思的给 RM200 。孩子自己也困难了。要维持自己的家庭
好了，30 年前的计划希望能够开始，旅行！！
大事不妙，媳妇怀孕了，生了个孩子。。。母亲代抚养，因 为媳妇孩子都做工
本来平静的退休生活又再次起了涟漪。。。每天就要照顾孙子，晚上他哭我就跟着醒，开始学习新的技术，喂奶，包尿片，唱歌，拍手掌。。。
孩子每个月意思意思的给多RM300 ，当着是孙子的伙食费 。。。
照顾了5 年后，孙子大了，孩子抱回去了，一切回归平静。忽然想起 30 年前的约定，决定和妻子去旅行。。。。
还是去不成了，妻子年级大了，病痛也多了。。。自己的腰骨也常闹别扭。。。医生说要多休息。。。孩子已经抱回孙子，每个月意思意思的给回 RM300 伙食费
惟有呆在家里看电视。。。。一天早上，妻子看见为什么老头没有起来扫地。。。想去房里骂我，但我已经回到天国去了。。。
孩子为我做了后事。。。
最后我成了一张照片。
人生就是如此讽刺。。。呵呵

Politician has a warm heart

Many people think that politician is a fake fellow who comes with a purpose.He wants names, fame's and he is not genuine.But I think politician has a warm heart. I had been mixing around with politicians lately and I see they respond quickly to people who need helps.They concern about the well being of the public.Though they have to fight for the positions among themselves but for a purpose, I think, "To serve the people". David is my good friend and he is a politician. One day ,late in the evening he called me to help a lady who has no home to go back to.David paid for her food and accommodation for the night. We dealt with this case for many days and at last settled.Whenever there is a case, David quickly visits the victim and shows his concern, sympathy and empathy. Franky is another politician whom I knew for a long time. Before Franky was elected as the representative, he is a helpful man. He always help people for no purpose. He is kind hearted, as I said, he got a warm heart.In short I would say that without a warm heart, you wouldn't choose to be a politician. Many people don't want to be a politician. Not all politician can become rich, though some were, many of them giving more than taking.I remember my friends once warned me : You mustn't be too close with those politician, one day they use you for their purposes and you will get hurt. But I didn't take the advice because I have a different opinion about politicians. I can feel their warm hearts. They themselves might not realise it, but this is a character they must own to be a politician. I am nothing in compare to them. If in this life people can use you, that mean you are useful.I want to say this to the politician , you know why you want to be a politician? Because you have a warm heart!!

Get yourself out from other people's mind

I was attending to a case whereby a lady claimed that her suffering was due to her boyfriend who tortured her mentally . How could this happen? Well this is how the story goes.
" Sometimes I wanted to be just with my children, but if I don't invite him , he probably will think that I am trying to leave him out. But when he turns up, I feel hatred and annoyed at the sight of his appearance."
"I planned to go back for Chinese New Year, but if I go, he might think that I want to runaway from him, I stay back but felt very upset about the matter, what should I do?"
"I can't even make new friends, if I do he probably think that I am trying to push him away?"
So, What is wrong with this lady? Yes, she is living in other people's mind. She worries too much about what other people might think...

1. You are not bond to this person, why cares...let him think what he wants to think, you must do what you think is good and right for you.
2. You cannot stop other people from thinking , let it be..
3 Be genuine, just be yourself, learn to say 'NO' when necessary. Let put yourself the first priority, other people , NEXT.

Lets jump out from his mind, if you don't love him , say so. No need to be over obliging,especially in the interpersonal relationship matter. Many people are not happy because they are not genuine, they try to please others and fulfill other people's wishes.

Teacher and Student

A boy was in the process to be expelled from school for several discipline problems. He is in form 2and only 14. What mistakes could a boy of 14 done to deserve this punishment? I summon the boy to my office. He had list of bad records, beside "ponteng" class, fighting and smoking, he also broke the school fence with the other fellows to escape from the extra mural activities.As usual, in school we have RULES and Regulations that purposely set to be obeyed by the students. Or other wise these students never learn to be discipline.
"Why you did all these? " I asked him. This is what he told me, " No use to be good,nobody ever appreciate me, even if I changed." "What make you think so? What is the prove?" He said, " I tried to be good but the teacher never even looked at me. She never called my name, never asked me a question or told me to do something. So whats the purpose of staying in the class? " You mean all the teachers did that to you?", " No only Cikgu Zu. " " Well do you think this is a good excuse to give up your future?" He frowned, "No.." "There must be a reason why the teacher ignored you, do you think so?" "I never paid attention while she was teaching.."
This is my comments about the whole matter. To be a teacher, you must have a big heart, heart of a mother. Sometimes we failed to identify the course of evils. If the students are all good, well behave, obedience, then teachers no need to go for training, no need to learn the methodology, adolescent psycology etc. Why we need to qualify to be a teacher? Because we are expecting our clients are "problematic" in the process of growing. Yet we forget about all these. we only punished them.

Al Kisah Lembu

Akhir-akhir ini isu lembu telah mengemparkan rakyat Malaysia dan negara-negara jiran. Nescaya isu tersebut telah menjadi bahan ketawa para member kedai kopi. Walau pun isu ini nampak kelakar, tetapi kita tidak seharusnya memandang remeh tentang perkara tersebut.
Pertama, maruah negara telah tercabar.Lembu yang dilambangkan sebagai 'Bodoh'bagi orang Melayu, mungkin kerana setitik nila rosak susu sebelanga. Negara jiran kita angkap orang Malaysia betullah bodoh.Orang lain sedang sibuk gawat ekonomi tapi orang Malaysia tidak habis-habis dengan isu lembu.Balai polis pun sibuk dengan aduan dan saman oleh kerana lembu. Kes ini hampir sama hebat dengan kes Bush kena lempar kasut, diserata dunia orang orang berkenaan telah menghimpunkan kasut, melukis kartun kasut, melukis poster kasut dan lain-lain.Sejurus, rakyat jelata agak terhibur dengan "kasut".
Kedua, ada setengah pihak masih anggap rakyat Malaysia masih hidup pada zaman purba di mana apa yang diperkatakan oleh "Ketua" pastinya benar. Mereka telah lupa bahawa ramai orang yang telah dihantar ke MARA, telah graduat dan jadi manusia berkepala otak geliga.Mereka mampu membuat analisis tentang apa yang berlaku. Siapa betul-betul rasuah dan siapa buat-buat rasuah. Mereka juga dapat bezakan nilai rasuah lembu dengan nilai 5 million yang mana harus diutamakan.
Berikutan dengan itu jelas kita dapat lihat bahawa orang yang dengar cakap lebih berpeluang untuk naik pangkat dibanding dengan orang yang layak. Isu ini telah mencabar martabat dan kewibawaan seseorang menjalankan tugas yang dimandapkan oleh rakyat.Oleh yang demikian, rakyat bertambah keciwa dan kesal, malah takut dan sangsi dengan orang-orang tersebut tadi. Manalah tahu, bila giliran kita pula jadi mangsa.Bukankah mereka diberi kuasa muklak? Tanya tuan-tuan. Ya, tapi kakitangan kerajaan tidak terlepas dari"Saya yang menurut perintah". Pepatah Cina ada berbunyi,"Anjing yang selalu makan tahi akan makan tahi juga walau pun diberi nasi.
Mungkin apa yang diperkatakan tadi semuanya tidak benar. Isu ini timbul kerana satu kesilapan iaitu ada orang tak sabar-sabar nak "jet" menteri,manalah tahu kok kok boleh dapat Tan Sri...hasil dari"Kecekapan" beliau menjalankan tugas. Beliau tidak sangka hal ini telah menjadi isu. Oleh sebab itu orang tua-tua kata "jangan main api, nanti bakar diri!"
Sebenarnya orang politik bukan semuanya jahat.Orang yang nak join politik mestilah orang yang berpersonaliti jenis sosial dan suka menolong.Orang yang betul-betul berwibawa, membela rakyat, membantu menyelesaikan segala masalah dengan tidak kira masa atau wang ringgit. Tetapi oleh kerana wujudnya isu-isu seperti isu lembu tadi, orang-orang ini telah menjadi mangsa. Mereka dihukum oleh rakyat sama dengan hero "lembu" tadi.

Why Kids nowaday got no sense of responsiblity?

It was The School Sports Day. I had selected the house representatives to run in the selected events. The sports was going to start soon but those 'bunch' not yet visible anywhere in the school compound. At last I couldn't wait any more, I had to sent the reserves instead. I called up those fellows and 'screw' them, this was the answer, " I couldn't wake up...Last night game till very late" I think I need to used the worst BAD words to curse those fellows! By the way, I don't think their parents knew that their kids was selected to represent the house in the sports events. THEY just didn't talked about this matter. Those days our parents were equally excited when we were selected as representatives. We felt honoured to be a representative. If we needed a costume, our parents would take all the troubles to make one for us. The parents in fact ,were involve too, there was an event for "IBUBAPA". But what a tragic scene I saw today at the Grand Stand.Beside the Principle and the VIP from the Education Department, There were handful of parents with the empty chairs, 99% were Malays and none Chinese.This is not a racist matter but when the Chinese kids go to secondary school, this is exactly is happening. The Chinese parents are FOREVER BUSY!!! As though nobody else except them, are working, even on Sundays.They not only not supporting what ever programmes organised by school, if possible, avoid it! What they don't understand is that the "Couldn't be bordered" attitude they are showing to their kids have cultivated the 'IRRESPONSIBLE" attitude in their children, which later would become worsen till they premature left school before graduated. Why? They couldn't be bordered even their own future. No need the quota system to kick our Chinese kids outside the university doors, its their own attitude! The 'couldn't be bordered' attitude that cause them to lose all the opportunities; until one day they realise 'THE IMPORTANCE OF EDUCATION' OH, NOT THEIR FAULTS, ITS THE GOVT THAT BIAS.............

Live a Life for Today

Sometimes I felt very sad listening to the old songs or passing through places I once been. The old memories came back but the people in the memories were no longer there. I just lost my childhood best friend of cancer who lived so near yet lost contact for years. I was too busy to make contacts until her family found me because it was her last wish to meet me again. She held my hands and tears rolling down, unable to speak. Just 3 week later she passed away. Most people never prepared to die until death comes. This is how most people live, chasing after tomorrow and never enjoy whats we are today. When we were in school, we wished we graduated quickly and get a job.When we were working, we look forward to our retirement day. When we retired, our life almost gone and we are near to grave. We never enjoy a day so call TODAY. We always tell our children to think of FUTURE. And future is infinite. We are BUSY all the times. We never stop by to just look at things around us; such as flowers blooming, birds singing, or listen to the insects chipping. BUSY is a deathly disease that strikes most of us today. 50 years past by so quickly, when I look back, I just couldn't remember a day when I was idle. My son gave me this idea when I asked him one day; 'What are you doing son?' he said," Idle...'Now I am looking forward to the day I would be idle. I had signed up for op 58, so have to add another 3 years to the day, IDLE. Let hope I won't die before this day....