Don't Take away His Burden

A father came to me, worried about his son SPM which is approaching soon. "The examination is near but my son is not at all worried. He sleeps for hours in the afternoon back from school." So the father fixed a wake up time and that is 3 o'clock. When the son is deep asleep, the father will woke him up; force him to read his books. But he is so sleepy that very soon he goes to sleep again.This has been going on for months and the relationship becoming from bad to worse. But still the father holding to his principle, nevertheless there is no improvement.
The problem of most 'educated' parent is that they seem take away their children's worries, put all the burden on their shoulders and leave nothing at all for the children to worry about. This is the opposite in term of 'poor' parents whereby they never bother at all about their children, 'cannot study just come out and work.'
"Who worry the most over the coming SPM?"I asked the boy.
"My father."he said.
"I have to worry because he doesn't seem to care."claimed the father.

The modern parents have plans for every steps their children taken. In fact they are caring too much that the children couldn't feel that their lives belong to themselves. Most children nowadays are not trained with sense of responsibility. A very small example the parent used to practise, "If you do well in the coming exam, I will give you......" The children might feel as though they 're doing a favour for their parents in scoring the papers. Sometimes they are tired of doing 'good things' just to please the parents. They have been told what their future suppose to be.So why worry? They have nothing to struggle for cause the 'thinking 'part already done by the parents.
"So what's your plan?"I asked the boy.
"Don't know, father said he is going to send me to private colleges if I doesn't do well."
"So what do you really like to do in future?I interrogated again.
"Don't know, father says I 'll be an engineer." Again father said..... The boy lazy to think for himself. I advised the father to try this alternative: leave the worries back to him, tell him that you doesn't bother about what he will be. Give him a week, just let yourself FREE. Soon the boy will sense that he is alone now to think about himself, and he might started to worry why nobody care anymore.3 days later I called the father to see how. "He sleeps again till 4 o'clock, I couldn't stand it and pull him up again. He rebelled and we had a big fight. I have nothing to say to the WORRYING father. Its not easy to turn the table around.