To Become A Counselor

Many people wish to be someone else apart from their own self. I met a group of people who undergo some courses in counseling, they wanted to practise counseling. I had a couple of friends who also claim themselves counselors after undergo some counseling sessions by a professional counselor. The process had make them think that they had qualified to become a counselor. Meeting a counselor is just like meeting a doctor, after some treatments you'll might feel better but this doesn't mean you are good enough to become a doctor yourself.
To become a counselor you need to have a basic degree in counseling. Four years in the university has a lot to learn.The syllabus covers Psychology, Philosophy, Sociology, Counseling theories, Motivation theories, Cross culture counseling, Counseling skills, 6 months Practical Exams, 1500 cases to deal, Examinations and assignments, then only if you get all through; you will obtain a DEGREE. A degree isn't good enough, you have to apply for license, undergo some interviews then only you are qualify to become a registered counselor.
As a counselor you are bounded by Code of Attics . Could courses of few days cover all that I had mentioned? I don't think so.
Many people thought that counseling is giving advices. This is wrong. WE ARE NOT GIVING ADVICES. Counseling is a process whereby the relationship between the counselor and the client work together to reach a state of self improvement. At the end of the process the client able to gather the strength to help himself to solve his own problems. We may not be able to change the situation , we also couldn't change other people but we can change our concepts. All counseling process are based on certain theories. Its not the coffee shop kind like talking. There are objectives to reach in our meetings. Many people like to help other people, but if you're not a professional counselor, than refer the case to the professional. Otherwise ,you will make the situation worse!

Laziness is the deadly disease of the youngsters

Lately I had been invited to give talks to many secondary schools. That also include some of the primary schools , especially the Chinese schools.I used to be careful in arranging my materials about how our Chinese students doing in secondary schools, in order not to be too offensive, I'll hid some of the truth and just speak what favourable to hear to our Chinese community . Is it wrong to speak the truth? I always asked myself, and this time I decide to speak the truth. The result is I didn't feel good about it after seeing how people react cause the truth is too painful to bear, especially by the race who always think superior about themselves.
There are two categories in secondary school about our Chinese students. Either they are the top cream of 10% or the worst lots of 30% and the middle are mostly the Malays. Today I am not going to talk about the good one. They are always well taken cared of. God bless them. But the worst lot really worry us, they are our future generations who suppose to lead and take our place after we left.
Laziness is the deadly disease that wide spread among the youngsters nowadays. Why? Everybody want to know WHY, the parents too, could not understand their young. In class, they'll be sleeping most of the time when the teachers start teaching. Or other wise they would sneak out and rather roaming around the school than sitting in the class listening to the 'boring' lessons(as they term it). I wish I could be convinced that the teachers were really boring, but to my disappointment, they dislike almost all the teachers and all the subjects,that include Chinese Language.They are also the law breakers. Keeping long and shabby hair style, with shirt loose unbutton, all year long no badges or name tags ,talking louder than other people, cracking dirty jokes and expert in 3 little bad words. The Malay teachers had been tolerated them, just not to scold or better use the word cursed them in front of us (the Chinese teachers) in order not to insult us.The common excuse they gave was that 'THEY COULD NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT THE TEACHERS ARE TEACHING,' or otherwise they said ' THE MALAY TEACHERS ARE UNFAIR TOWARDS THEM' ... but both excuses had strongly convinced their parents that the school is at fault for their children laziness! And we usually get the feedback from their parents that they supported their children to stop school even at the age of 15(Form 2). 'BETTER GO TO WORK'. This is their final destination. They wanted to work badly to earn money to support their handsets, that's the hidden reason every teachers know! I used to trace back my students who left school for this similar matter to find out if whether they are doing well, but to my surprise most of them regretted and wish to come back to school. Why? Its because working life is not really fun either for THE LAZY people.